每日外闻31
万花筒里看成功4
成功的复杂性2
任何认真考虑过这成功四要素的人，都会很快的意识到要素本身是非常复杂的，很难有规律的去把握。随着你的目标变大变多，同时实现这四个要素变得更加的困难。每个要素都有不同的特性。这些要素对应不同的需求，取决于不同的情感驱动和优先顺序。所以，如果有人告诉你，你只要简单的做着你喜欢的工作，幸福感，成就感和生活的意义就会随之而来，这完全是误导人的说法。不管你有多在乎你的工作，你仍然会有很多有自相矛盾的欲望-你要权衡工作和生活，权衡要死盯住一个问题不放，还是先绕过它，权衡拥有更多公司短期的市场份额和投资公司未来的需求。你在竞争中使用的技巧和你在休闲娱乐时的技巧是完全不同的。你关心朋友或者客户可能对应四个条款中的“意义”一项，为自己公司构建有利的财务条款可能对应的是“成就感”的要素，这两者不能相互替代，它们都属于不同的考量范围。
理解这四个成功的基本要素的不同特性，能帮助你明晰你在某个事件中具体要与哪一个要素对应，然后制定计划，实现最合适的目标。否则，你可能会好高骛远指定太多脱离实际资源的目标，或者成为错误目标的牺牲者。
把自己的期望正确分类是获得可持续性成功的关键技能。比如，“与人竞争”应归属于“成就感”。如果你把“快乐”建立在“与人竞争”上，那么你可能会变成一个你和你周围的人都无法忍受的人，然后你开始“抱怨”为什么成功让你变得如此的孤独。那些不能为自己或者公司制定正确目标的人，往往就是陷入了这种错误的归类匹配中。例如，一家自称为家庭友好型的公司就不应该在晚饭时间或者周末假期时加班开会。
把期望正确的分类，可以帮助你在处理手头上的工作时，理智的看待事物，做出正确的判断，采取更果断的行动。在衡量一份工作时，你就不会只看这份工作这份工作给你带来多少快乐，或者仅根据你掌握某件事情的能力来计算生意上的成功。你会将一项任务放到更大的蓝图下，以长远的眼光来考虑其意义。同样地，你会在任务中调整情绪，找到最适合的心态。如果你打算以追求“快乐”的方式追求“成就”，那这种心态很可能在一开始就会阻碍你的表现；而相反的，如果把追求“成就”当成追求“快乐”，你会变成一个永无休止的工作狂。
Success That Lasts 4
The Complexity of Success 2
Anyone who takes the four elements of success seriously soon realizes how complicated it can be to touch on all four with regularity. As you scale up your goals, the four-part mix becomes more difficult to achieve. Each factor has a different set of characteristics. Satisfying different needs, they draw on distinctive emotional drives and prioritize self and others in different ways. That’s why people who tell you that happiness, achievement, and significance will come automatically if you simply do the work you love are misguided. Regardless of how much you care about your job, you will still feel conflicting desires—between work and home, between working forever on a problem and taking a break from it, between going for more market share today and investing in the company’s needs for tomorrow. The skills you use to compete are totally different from those you employ in moments of enjoyment. You can be there for a friend, and you can care about a customer, but these acts (in the significance category) can’t be substituted for the kind of thinking and prioritization that is necessary to structure favorable financial terms for your own firm (in the achievement category).
People who tell you that happiness, achievement, and significance will come automatically if you simply do the work you love are misguided.
Understanding the distinctive features of the four areas of success can help you articulate what you are seeking in a certain activity. You can then create a diagnostic for determining how to achieve the most appropriate goal. You may be expecting too many categories to be fulfilled without incorporating the right resources and perspectives, or you may be falling prey to a mismatch.
Matching your expectations to the right category is a critical skill for achieving sustainable success. If you expect happiness to come primarily from competition (an achievement skill), you’ll probably turn into someone neither you nor those around you can tolerate—and wonder why success has made you so lonely. People who report having trouble defining the right goals for themselves or for their companies are often caught in such mismatches. For instance, a self-described family-friendly company might hold critical staff meetings over late dinners or during extended weekend retreats.
The act of categorizing in and of itself can help you take more decisive action and channel the right emotions and perspectives to the task at hand. You can stop measuring a job only by how happy it makes you or calculating a business success only in terms of your ability to achieve mastery over something. Instead, you’ll see how one task fits into a larger context. By the same token, you’ll be able to anticipate what kind of emotional capital you’ll need to bring to a task. If you try to bring feelings of happiness or contentment to your achievement goals, you’ll stunt your performance from the start. If you don’t put achievement in its place, however, you’ll trap yourself in a workaholic restlessness.
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